What is the Difference
Between a Love or Lust
Relationship?
Merriam-Webster’s
dictionary makes a
distinction between a
love or lust
relationships. It
defines love as, "strong
affection for another
arising out of kinship
or personal ties," and
defines lust as, “an
intense longing”. These
two conflicting
definitions help to
separate love from lust.
By definition alone the
two differ in that love
is based on an affinity
while lust is based
solely on desire. The
two also differ in how
they affect a
relationship but
sometimes it becomes
difficult to separate
the two because lust can
exist in the presence of
love. Analyzing a loving
relationship and a
lustful relationship
separately will help us
to learn to distinguish
love from lost.
Just Relationship Advice
carefully examined the
difference between love
and lust and here is
what they found....
Love has a positive
affect on a relationship
because when love exists
both partners taken into
consideration what is
important to the other.
Love affects
relationships in a
myriad of ways including
how the couple
interacts, the leisure
activities they
participate in and the
longevity of the
relationship.
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In a loving
relationship the
couple behaves
thoughtfully towards
each other and is
mindful of their
partner’s feelings.
In this type of
relationship, each
partner strives to
treat each other
lovingly and with
respect.
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Also, in a loving
relationship the
leisure activities
that the couple
participates in are
based on a mutual
love and interest.
Activities are
chosen with careful
consideration to the
partner’s feelings.
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In a loving
relationship the
partners typically
engage in activities
that they either
strongly agree on or
those that are a
compromise. While a
couple in a loving
relationship may not
always be in
complete agreement
regarding leisure
activities, they
strive to compromise
to ensure that both
partners have the
opportunity to
engage in their
preferred
activities.
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Finally a
relationship that is
based on love is
usually long
lasting. The
presence of love in
the relationship
enables a couple to
work through any
problems or
difficulties that
arise in the
relationship and
helps the
relationship to
endure. The
thoughtfulness and
caring that exists
in a loving
relationship helps
the relationship to
grown and endure.
Conversely a lustful
relationship may not
necessary have a
negative affect on a
relationship but it also
may not be as positive
as a loving
relationship. Similarly
to love, lust also
affects a relationship
in regard to how the
couple interacts, the
activities the couple
participate in and the
durability of the
relationship.
The primary difference
between a lustful and a
loving relationship is
that while in a loving
relationship the
partners place a high
value on the happiness
of their partner, a
lustful relationship is
one in which the
partners are consumed by
their own desires. The
partners in a lustful
relationship place their
needs and wants ahead of
their partner’s desires.
This alone is enough to
make their partner feel
disrespected and to not
place a high value on
the relationship. (Sound
like this is the place
to have a sit-down
teen dating advice
session with your
child!)
The fundamental
selfishness that exists
in a lustful
relationship trickles
down and affects the
activities in which the
couple participates.
While those in a loving
relationship strive to
compromise and find
activities that they
both enjoy, those in a
lustful relationship are
more prone to insist on
participating in
activities that they
enjoy regardless of
whether or not their
partner will also enjoy
this activity.
Our
break-up advice is
to keep in mind that a
characteristic of a
lustful relationship is
that it is typically
short lived. A lustful
relationship is driven
by passion and desire
and once a goal is
reached the partner
becomes no longer
desirable. With nothing
else to drive the
relationship it soon
begins to wane and the
couple often separates.
Lustful relationships
are characterized by a
selfishness and lack of
respect that typically
results in a short and
tumultuous relationship.
So the BIG
dating relationship
advice question that
we pose to you is what
kind of relationship
interests you - love or
lust? And after reading
this, what kind of
advice for marriage
would you give yourself?
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