Wedding Anniversary Become Ho Hum? Try these 8 Ways
to Turn Up the Passion.
By Susie and Otto Collins
Another wedding anniversary approaches. Will it be
flowers and candy-- as usual-- this year? Will it be
a card and dinner at the same restaurant you always
So many couples celebrate their wedding anniversary
by doing the same "special" things.
Even though the day (and night) might be festive and
even enjoyable, it can become ho hum.
Don't let another wedding anniversary come and go by
doing the same old thing.
After all, this is the day that you and your spouse
celebrated your commitment to one another by
declaring your love to friends, family and the
We know, after a certain number of years together,
an anniversary is just an anniversary. It's an
excuse to eat out perhaps.
If your wedding anniversary has become a bit drab
and dull, perhaps your marriage has as well?
Maybe you and your partner have settled into a
comfortable and relatively pleasant life together.
Yes, you love one another...but what happened to the
You can use your anniversary this year as a turning
point in your relationship. Move away from the ho
hum and re-ignite the spark.
Here are some ideas....
*Write a love letter.
Who needs a store bought card filled with goofy
words you might never say? Put your feelings of
appreciation and love down on paper.
It can be a regular sheet of notebook paper or a
piece of card stock upon which you express your
*Get a sitter and share a special candlelit
dinner for two.
Sometimes there's nothing more romantic than adding
candles and a special meal to your own dinner table
and sitting down together for a
quiet meal for only two.
Create a child care trade arrangement with another
family you trust and have the house all to
yourselves for great food, a romantic mood and
whatever comes next...
*Arrange a spa night in your home.
You could hire a masseuse to give you and your mate
side-by-side massages. What a wonderful gift to you
Or, you could also set up a home-made spa night in
your own home. It's affordable and sensual to give
one another back massages and even share a bubble
*Declare 3 (or more) things you appreciate
about one another.
This idea is completely free and guaranteed to open
your hearts and bring you closer together. Take a
few moments to tap into the loving and grateful
feelings you have for you partner.
Next, share with him or her
at least 3 things that you appreciate. Then, it's
your turn to listen to what your mate appreciates
*Splurge for a decadent treat.
We know, budgets are tight for many couples and
families these days. You don't have to go into debt
to have a romantic anniversary.
You might splurge for one decadent treat that you
both enjoy. Is it chocolate covered strawberries? A
particular vintage or year bottle of wine? Maybe
it's a high quality massage oil to be used together?
Even those with two "left" feet can hold a partner
close and sway to soft and sultry music.
Whether it's in your own home or out at a club,
listen together to music that lights you both up.
Wrap your arms around each other and move to that
music. Let the song carry you away together.
*Tell each other at least 3 things that turn
Take some private time during your anniversary
celebration to share with your partner what sparks
passion and desire within you.
Is it the way that he strokes your arm or cheek? Is
it a particular look that she gives you? Perhaps
it's the curve of her back or the strength of his
arms? Whatever turns you on, let your mate know.
*Create a relationship plan for your future.
We all make plans for the future-- it might be a
financial plan or it could be a plan regarding your
Sit down with your partner and a piece of paper and
write down where you want to be together-- as a
couple-- in 10 years, 5 years, 1 year or even
Have fun with this. How will you two communicate
with one another then? What will you have done
together-- trips, workshops, other experiences?
Allow yourself to get excited about this future you
can begin pointing toward today.
Stretch yourself and do something new this year for
your wedding anniversary. Let your imagination run
wild and enjoy the passionate effects!