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3 Ways to
Ensure that Your Romantic Anniversary Surprise is
By Susie and Otto Collins
Wedding anniversaries can be a wonderful time to
re-ignite the spark and connection in your marriage.
You and your spouse can tap into those alive and
excited feelings for one another that might have
played a part in bringing you together in the first
What better way to show your mate how much he or she
means to you than with a special anniversary
This might include you whisking your partner off to
a favorite fancy restaurant to a cozy candlelit
table for two. It could mean that you invite all of
your closest friends and family for a surprise party
in honor of your love for your spouse.
Or it may involve you packing a bag for your mate
and driving him or her up to a secluded cottage for
a passionate celebration with one another.
Well, let's wait a minute.
Many people shy away from trying to surprise their
partner with some elaborate party or plan such as
these because it can actually flop!
Some people simply don't like to be surprised. Your
partner might be one of them.
Maybe your partner does like to be surprised and you
would love to honor him or her in this way. But, you
feel unsure of exactly what kind of a surprise your
spouse would like.
You want this to be very special and are afraid your
idea won't come off the way you want it to.
Here's our advice to you...
If you are excited and you want to surprise your
partner on your wedding anniversary, we think you
should give it a try.
When it comes to keeping the spark lit and passion
burning red hot in your relationship, often those
pleasant unexpected gestures can do wonders.
We do suggest that you plan a surprise that is well
thought-out and one that takes into account what you
and your mate both enjoy. This doesn't mean you have
to spill the beans about those concert tickets you
It merely means that you need to think ahead and
think outside the box of your own preferences and
#1 Be inspired
If you feel drawn to celebrate your marriage and
your love for your mate and you decide to surprise
him or her for your anniversary, by all means let
yourself be inspired.
When you feel into yourself about this person with
whom you share life and love, what specific
activities or gifts come into your mind?
What do you love to do with your partner? Choose
something that you might not have the opportunity to
do very often. Don't worry about this activity or
gift being "too simple" or "not expensive enough."
The point here is to start where you feel deep love
and passion in regards to your relationship and then
go with it.
Chances are, the excitement and depth of feeling
will come through in your gift, gesture or plan and
that is what will make the anniversary surprise
positively memorable for both of you.
#2 Know your spouse
Once you have an idea of the surprise you'd like to
do for (and with) your partner, take a step back and
really consider whether this is something he or she
would like and feel excited about as well.
Yes, that expensive diamond jewelry in the
television ad might make the actress seem happy, but
is that truly something your wife would appreciate
You might need to revise your plans somewhat after
thinking about what your partner tends to prefer.
At the same time, don't reject an idea simply
because you think your partner would not like it.
For instance, it might be that he or she has also
been wanting to try that new ethnic restaurant in
town but just hasn't said anything about it.
If you live with a mate who claims to "hate"
surprises, be sensitive to this. You might
communicate to your partner that you are planning
something special for your upcoming anniversary.
You could request that he or she allow you to take
care of the planning and arrangements.
But be willing to provide a certain amount of
information-- such as the time frame involved, for
example-- so that your partner can feel comfortable
about the impending surprise while you still get to
do the surprising.
#3 Celebrate the old in new ways
Especially if you've been together for awhile, you
might be tempted to revisit nostalgic places that
hold significance to you and your partner. This can
be a great and connecting experience for you both.
You might plan a day trip to the college town where
the two of you met and began dating. This can be fun
and rejuvenating to passion in your relationship.
But it can also flop if the places have changed
and what you find in your old college town simply
doesn't match up to your memories.
Allow room for flexibility in your plans.
Try not to be so attached to the way you remember
things that you miss the whole point of the surprise
in the first place-- that is to celebrate the love
that you and your partner share for one another.